Harley’s book “His Needs, Her Needs” is so far the best book I have read that talks about marriage, the needs of each partner and the way to avoid affairs in marriage
It is not only about his explanation of each need but the level of simplicity and authenticity by which he expounds on each of them.
I used his advises on my marriage and the little wonderful miracles I have seen multiply in our relationship is a testament to the effectiveness of what he speaks about. Not only did I read it but also shared with my wife. It is such an amazing thing when partners in marriage understand each other’s needs and more than that are willing to work to bring satisfaction to each one of them not out of compulsion but pure understanding.
To a considerable extent, this book is a need for anyone who’s looking to get married. If you are single, dating, courting, or looking forward to marriage, this is a sample premarital class.
He speaks about the needs of a man that includes sexual fulfilment, recreational companionship, physical attractiveness, domestic support admiration, among others. For Her, affection, intimate conversation, honesty and openness, financial support and family commitment are the most desired.
Rarely will you hear these talked about as clearly as Harley shares. We actually enjoyed more when each of us would read and repeat each other’s needs. Oh yeah, that was something! What an experience!
When it comes to sex and affection, you can't have one without the other.
Regardless of the order of importance to an individual, these needs rank the highest above all others.
His concept of Love Banks is an indispensable eye-opener to both partners. One becomes self-aware of the deposits you make daily into your partner’s love bank. I enjoyed this truth; not because I was doing well in my relationship but because I had realised a way to retain the love and fun that is needed in any marriage.
This is a read and re-read worth a million bucks.
